Mum’s Stories Matter – Gemma Capocci’s Story

Today is the start of Maternal Mental Health Week and in support of the week, here at The Every Mum Movement, we are giving fellow mums a voice and inviting them to share their stories and experiences of maternal mental health, in our #MumsStoriesMatter series.  First up we have the lovely Gemma, founder of Calm Mama’s Club joining our campaign and bravely sharing her story.

Over to you Gemma…….



I didn’t become pregnant and think I was going to be a terrible parent.  I worried I wouldn’t have a clue what I was doing, sure.  But I felt fairly confident I was going to be a good mum – a fun mum, a happy mum.   Yet as I sat on my sofa, listening to my baby cry in her cot for what seemed like the millionth time, I felt like none of those things.  Instead I felt stuck, trapped; with a feeling of despair I had never experienced before.  I was a long way from the happy mum I wanted to be, and instead all I felt an overwhelming sense of doom and failure.  I longed for something to change, but I just didn’t know how to make that change happen or where to start.


The reality was I needed a break.  After leaving my fast-paced PR job I had literally thrown myself into my new role as a mum, full throttle.  As a stay-at-home parent it was literally my job to be a mum 24/7, and so that’s what I did.  But when the inevitable sleep deprivation set in and the baby decided she had her own agenda when it came to any kind of routine, I felt like I was losing control and it was suprising how quickly my mental health spiralled. I felt ashamed to admit to anyone but my husband that I needed help, and the act I put on in front of friends was Oscar worthy.  But it wasn’t sustainable, and eventually, after the birth of my second baby, I found myself in pieces on our kitchen floor in the midst of a panic attack, and I knew then I had to seek real help.


Counselling and regular childcare was what I needed in this instance to give me the break I so desperately craved.  But later, after the birth of my third baby, and when I was subsequently diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) was a game changer.  It was then I started to think about how I could help other mums in the same boat, and this is when the idea for my company, Calm Mamas Club, was born.


Mental illness is never simple, but I knew that my inability to prioritise my own needs alongside those of my family was a major problem.  I therefore wanted to create a space where mums needs came first for a few important hours.  Where mums could be open without fear of judgment, feel understood and meet other mums – extending their all-important support network, whilst also learning some takeaway tips that boost wellbeing at home on a daily basis. But more than anything I wanted those mums to leave feeling relaxed, ready to face family life, and ultimately happy and calm.


Unfortunately I wasn’t aware of the Pandas Foundation when I was struggling, but I so wish I had.  Funded solely by donations, PANDAS provides crucial support for parents suffering from pre and post-natal mental illness in the form of telephone and email helplines, plus in-person support groups.  I often think of how things might have been different if I had spoken with one of their trained volunteers, which is why I try to raise as much awareness of their services as possible, and donate in the region of 10% from the sale of every ticket to the charity.  Knowing they could save a mum or dad from falling to the floor as I did.


I wish I could say that since receiving CBT it has been nothing but an uphill trajectory, but anyone who suffers from mental illness will know that it’s a bumpy road.  However, I now know to be kind to myself and that prioritizing my own self-care is far from selfish.  In fact it is essential for the happiness of not just me, but my entire family.  I also know that feelings of anxiety will fade, and that whilst it may feel like I’m simply surviving, as a family we’re thriving, and I hope I can help other mums realise the same.


Gemma x


If you would like to share your story and feature in our #MumsStoriesMatter campaign in support of Maternal Mental Health Week, please email for more details.  If you or someone you know is in need of support with their maternal mental health we have a list of services here.  And, if you would like to read about a fellow mums recovery from maternal mental health then please see, the book from The Every Mum Movement Founder, Olivia Siegl here.


To find out more about the work, Gemma does you can sign up for the Calm Mamas Club newsletter and receive regular updates on the latest events, CMC news, blog posts and discounts.  Simply visit and fill out the pop-up form Alternatively please follow @calmmamasclub on Instagram and Facebook


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